focus Test
September 29, 2007
Last week we had the initial meeting with Fr. Reis to talk about our spiritual preparation in getting married next year. Our wedding is still a long way to go but we’d like to contact the church now just because we want to make sure that the date we want is open. With our parents have to travel here and the football schedule, we can’t miss the October, 18th date we chose and we really want to get married at St. Peter. Not only St. Peter is our parish church, but also the church is beautiful.
On our initial meeting, we talked about basic topics such as why we decided to get married, how our view of children is, how we will bring the Christ in our marriage. Then, he asked us to fill in the Focus Test questionnaires. It is a comprehensive questionnaires (there were more than 100 questions!) to find out if we are truly compatible with each other/ if there is something that we need to work on before our marriage. I think it is a good test. The questions cover various topics such as financial decisions, household chores management, family matters, etc. Then, he’d grade it >.< and asked us to come back a week after to discuss about the result.
We met again with the father this afternoon and fortunately, we were pretty compatible with each other! We discussed everything today and did not need to come back next week. There were only a few topics in which we were in different view. Edy and I talked about it under Fr. Reis’ guidance. At the end, we reached an agreement over these matters. It’s good to know these differences in our views about life and life after marriage now so that we can smooth things out now before it’s getting too late. Overall, this focus test is a good experience and I’m glad that we did it. After we ‘passed’ the test, then we talked about the wedding date and the date now is set in stone. It’s going to be at 10.30AM in the morning of October, 18th 2008. We didn’t have much choice since we can only choose either AM ceremony or PM ceremony and we’d like to have a time gap between our ceremony and reception for VARIOUS reasons (Believe me! We’ve considered every aspect over having an AM ceremony vs. PM ceremony. In the end, AM ceremony wins). One more wedding prep task done. 